Do you ever feel like your life is an endless to do list? And the majority of the things on that list aren’t actually things you want to do?
That has been me, for the past two weeks. There have been lots of things I must do but not a great deal of my time has been devoted to what I actually want to do, like creative writing, acting, watching theatre or films, reading literature I’ve chosen, had dinner with friends, or done different things to usual. I make the same bolgnaise, roasted red pepper soup, and have the same cheat meal every week, have my work for all my seminars and lectures and reading for this essay due in the middle of March.
I’ve had a very different long weekend, from Thursday night having a meal out and watching Logan with Ellie, before Matt came up for Friday and Saturday and my Mum and brother for today. It was interesting to have a fresh perspective on York and my life here from Matt, as having two days out of seven at university on a pretty nice big varied campus in the quirky historical beautiful city of York is actually not as taxing as it sometimes feels.
So after a bizarrely stressful week and a relaxing weekend I figured I’d write a piece on my thoughts of how to make time for everything; the must dos, the ought to dos, and the really want to dos:
- Have a morning routine. Recently this has been a life changer for me, waking up at the same time, having a cup of tea, reading something, before getting showered and dressed sets me up for my day, whatever I may be doing.
- Order your day the night before. List out the things you have to do tomorrow because they can’t be done any later, and rearrange them in a way that works around whatever else is planned. For instance if you have a seminar or meeting 11-1 it doesn’t make sense to attempt to do everything you need to do before 11, set achievable things in the time you have.
- Don’t be regimental. Don’t assign a time for everything, the idea of loosely ordering out your day is fine as it doesn’t mean each task has to be completed in a certain time, as sometimes one thing can take longer than expected whilst other things are done easily and quickly. Give yourself breathing room or your feel as though you’ve failed from not completely your highly strung plan.
- Cut the crap. This is one of my new years resolutions, any form this takes for you just cut it out.
- Take things in positively. Rather than stewing or becoming down or angry about something that’s happened, try to move on and take it in a positive way so you can laugh about it and let that fuel your determination rather than send you in a downwards spiral.
- Don’t take yourself seriously. Because other than being boring, it’s also boring.
- Do exercise classes. They’re energetic, fun, release endorphins, and it’s social *yas*.
- Make an overview of your week. Like the loose plan of your day but for the week, the things you want to achieve across the week.
- Do something that solely focuses on what you want for 30 minutes a day.
- Don’t spend precious time worrying or deliberating or punishing yourself over something you should have done or didn’t, or on approaching deadlines, events or pressures.
- Find a way to release the pressure placed on you by yourself and others. For me this is dancing, reading something I’m interested in, singing, watching YouTube interviews, or yoga.