Accepting that I have more than one calling

My friend sent me a TED talk the other day where career coach Emilie Wapnick explains Why some of us don’t have one calling or as I’d put, why some of us won’t ever pick just one thing that we want to do.

It will probably come as no surprise to you that I was a child who was always busy. I had different club every evening or lunchtime, and I absolutely loved it. Whether it was a choir, scouts, dance clubs, swimming club, drama club, rainbows, I did as much as I could. I also tried the saxophone, violin, piano, guitar, drums, electric guitar, singing (MT & classical) before settling on piano, guitar and Musical theatre singing.

At the time I absolutely loved what I was doing, I don’t know if I was good at it or not, I only did something if I enjoyed it. Otherwise I’d lose interest and try something else instead.

As you grow up you’re meant to pick one of those things to focus perhaps for the rest of life, or let’s be real, maybe just the next 5 years. We’re going to have tons of different careers in our lifetime.

But I even struggled to choose my course for University and in the end settled with English as I felt it kept my options as open as possible. You can read more about what you can do with an English degree here.

I always wanted to have a versatile life; I didn’t want to do one thing forever as I have so many different passions and interests, not just one calling. I am an artsy person, that’s all I can tell you.

As an adult it means that my focus is often torn. Whilst I’m doing one thing I love such as screenwriting, I’m often thinking of new ideas in the back of my mind for a novel.

It’s harder to complete projects as I’m simultaneously working on different things at the same time, but my creativity and my aspirations just don’t fit into one prescribed box. They usually spill into several.

I always thought (and so did my family) that eventually I’d pick one. Reside myself to a life as x, y, or z. Yet, the truth is, there isn’t anything I would lose as I love it all.

Don’t get me wrong, I’ve given things up along the way. I physically couldn’t do everything I did as a child now and I wouldn’t want to. So in some ways, I am more focused on what I want to do. I just love anything where I can be creative.

I do miss some of the things I used to do, such as singing lessons or singing in a choir, drawing and painting, as well as acting. But, my life is pretty full right now, and one day I will have the time to indulge in those hobbies again. I’m just choosing to focus on the big goals/passions right now.

Perhaps one thing I would change is shifting my full-time role to part-time as I’d have the best of everything. I’d have more time for my own projects and to finish projects – what a luxury! Sadly, I’m not in the position to do that just yet, I’ve got to pay the bills somehow eh?

I have accepted that I am not going to be a one thing person. That to some extent my dream is slightly harder (or easier – depending how you look at it) to attain as there are so many different avenues I could take to reach it.

In essence I want to tell stories, which bleeds into everything I’m interested in doing; screenwriting, novel writing, directing, producing (TV & Film), acting, social and digital marketing.

I don’t think it’s a bad thing to not have one thing you’re passionate about in life, it’s doesn’t mean your scatty or unfocused (though you could be, I can’t say for sure). In fact if you’re juggling more than one task as an adult it usually is a testament to your determination and organisation to be able to fit everything in, which is never a bad thing.

Is there one thing you’re passionate about? Do you have one true calling?

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  • Hannah says:

    It was definitely hard for me to pick my degree as I could not decide between a science-based degree or an english-based degree. But I think ultimately, I always enjoyed creative writing which I do not necessarily need a degree to accomplish whereas in order to be a Physiotherapist, you had to do a degree. I can definitely see myself having multiple avenues of income as I get older but I think that is a good thing because it means that no matter the state of the economy, I should be fine. xx

  • I saw myself reflected in this post so much. I used to just want to fit into one thing and not feel so conflicted. I’m only now accepting that I have more than one thing but like you telling stories is something to the core of my being. I just need to focus and sort each thing before spreading out. Part of me kind of wants a job again, maybe I might try and pick up Christmas temp roles as well as freelancing right now. Great post as normal Jess, really thought provoking!

  • Lovely post! I completely understand the struggle! I have so many things that I love doing, I can’t chose just one! But I also realised that having so many things you like is really hard for other people to understand! I’ve always felt bad because I didn’t have one passion or a favourite thing to do…! I love your thoughts here and you’re totally right, we should just accept that we’re not a “one-thing person” and make the best out of it 😊

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