Adjusting to life after university

While I am adjusting to life after university, I am now not actually completely done with education. It’s as big of a surprise to me as it is to you.

But let’s just rewind for a second. A week ago, (but it feels like four weeks ago) I finished my degree! Then once I was sober the next day I drove home as I had my Nan’s thanksgiving service the following day. It was a busy and emotional week for many reasons and then I spent the weekend in London watching Kinky Boots and drowning in cocktails with Rae & Lauren.

Before the weekend I had two days of nothing and that was terrifying, not to mention boring.

Every day I tried to write a to do list, and while I had a few odd points each day, the list was no where near as long as my final weeks of writing my dissertation. It’s so odd having no deadline left to meet, or not constantly being out of the house in a cafe, or town or a friend’s house.

Adjusting to the pace of life at home is always different, while my family have their own lives and do their own thing, this time I am left with nothing to do.

So I applied to every job roughly related to my degree or job experience and then I waited.

I applied to an MA in Creative Writing at Leicester a few weeks back, and today I got an offer for a place starting in September for a year. I am thrilled! It’s so nice to know I have at least one concrete plan next year, and it’s a huge stepping stone in the right direction to become a writer. A girl can dream eh?

But the offer today made me realise that worrying about your career or finances is like worrying about the impossible, as whatever you’re worrying about, it may not come true, or be what happens next.

Something else may crop up that you weren’t even worrying about yet. In About Time the time-traveller quotes a Baz Luhrmann lyric that says “worrying about the future is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble gum. The real troubles in your life will always be things that never crossed your worried mind.” I always remember that quote, as it resonates with me so much, because it is so blatantly true.

Also chatting this weekend to my friend Lauren, it made me realise that everyone feels the same way about life after university. Slightly overwhelmed with real life, worried about money (mainly having none as university squeezes your finances dry), in need of a holiday and most likely having no immediate or logical plan. You just keep trying with jobs, or courses and hope to get somewhere, someday.

I’ve decided I don’t need to worry about the future or worry about the plans I have or haven’t made over the coming months. Plans come together quickly. Life changes quickly and offers new opportunities appear that you want to have the time to grab!

Instead I’m gonna put down my organiser and relax into the slower pace of life for now, as I know I won’t be lucky enough to have this much free time again or these few worries again really. And it’s far easier to relax knowing that everyone after university is in the same boat drifting out into the open sea of the reality.

How did you find life after university?

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  • Daniella says:

    I’m a strong believer that what’s meant to be will be. At the beginning of this school year, I didn’t know what my life would be like in a year. For the first time, things were unclear. Would I get a job? Would I have to move back to Canada. I let it happen, and I know it’s the path I’m meant to take. You’ll find your answers!

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