Beth and I drunkly decided that one of our New Year’s resolutions for 2017 was to cut the crap. And so far, we’re both doing pretty well really.
We basically wanted to cut the crap in all areas of our lives – the food, bad thoughts, bad people, bad events. We’d cut the crap. When you filter out all the bad bits of life then you are actually left with the good stuff, and feel happier and more yourself – who knew?
It feels like there is always a lot of people who want to patronise, judge, or criticise you. The people who competitively decide who’s winning at life by judging your social media, your texts, your clothes, your facial expressions.
A support officer at school once told me that she could tell how I was feeling from the state of my hair that day. I mean, what is that about?
In life there is only one person worth competing with – if you even think life is a competition – and that is yourself.
Nobody else is in your race, because nobody else has lived your life, experienced your experiences. In the end we all have to live separately in our own heads, and that is who you’re competing with: previous versions of yourself.
I found myself becoming frustrated by how unmotivated I was at the beginning of last term. I socialised, I did my work, overall it was great, but I just wasn’t feeling it. I couldn’t work out why I was doing this? It isn’t what I want to do long term so why do it now? Where is the creativity and the fun?
I don’t like being disorganised. I am mostly a very organised and disciplined person and I had to admit to people how unorganised and stressed I felt. It was a really embarrassing thing for me, and while some people patronised me, most people were in the exact same boat and it’s actually really relatable as no one is completely on it all the time.
As my blog title aptly states life is unexpected and throws unexpected things at you and you have to try and embrace, as well you don’t actually have much choice. I’ve dwelled on what I can’t change for way too long and let tell you it was not worth it.
So it’s time to cut the crap out.
Some people won’t like you. If everyone likes you then trust me you’re doing something wrong. Just be yourself, be genuine and if people don’t like you, then they don’t.
Some people also aren’t worth your time, the snakes, the false friends, the judgers are all not worth it. Accept who you are, and try to be the best version of yourself and then you’ve succeeded, you’ve won at life if you are the truest, kindest version of you.
Whatever shape or form or manner that comes in, we should all just aim for that. Live your life to the full and just BE KIND. So let’s cut the crap shall we?
How do you cut the crap in your life?